Breaking habits.

If you want something done right, you have to train your mind to think right first.

Eyeshana Henderson

It’s not always easy starting the journey of breaking habits. It’s rough, long and very annoying. It’s literally breaking something you have become dependent on. This can also trigger the habit to reoccur again. I’m here to tell you it gets better.

When it comes to breaking a habit firstly , don’t stress on the time frame it may take to heal. That’s going to add a lot of pressure and stress on you. Then you may relapse. So let’s get that out the way, and worry only about today. Do this every single day you wake up. “I avoided my habit today” and that’s all. By the time flies it’s been years, and you haven’t relapsed.

Habits can be anything from alcohol, drugs, food, the things we do, people, places and things. If it’s causing a interference in your life then it’s a negative habit. There are some positive ones of course , but too much of anything is never good either. So we must learn how to decipher when a habit is causing us more harm than good.

I was one to make excuses for my drinking habit, I told myself things like well I know how to remain intellectual and alert while under the influence. That only made my habit worse, in fact it did not interfere in my life as where I lost people due to it. It only affected my financial independence. It clouded my judgement of making rational decisions when it came to spending.

So a habit may not seem all bad now cause you’re still living life great, but it will sneak up on you on some in form where you’re going to have to make a choice. That habit or your life?

A bad habit doesn’t always have to involve drugs either. It can be the way you treat and speak to yourself and others. How much of this habit controls over your rational decisions. The first step is thinking back on how many people may have mentioned, that you needed to change something about yourself? I don’t mean one or twice. I’m referring to over ten people telling you the same thing, or a few close ones saying it.

Once you wake up and listen, you’ll accomplish so much more. When you set your pride to the side, you benefit from the results immensely. Once you get the “I know everything” mentally out the way. You’ll learn a lot about yourself and what others can teach you.

Always go with what’s best for yourself , just cause it sounds like a good idea doesn’t mean it’s right for you. I will encourage you to think about it, put yourself in the picture and if it feels right then go for it. It’s always going to be what you decide. Make it worth it.

To break a habit, I must gain a new one. I have a habit of breaking bad habits.

Eyeshana Henderson.

Out of sight , out of mind.

Are you planning on enhancing some of your financial skills this year? I’m sure most us are looking to drop and gain some habits that we feel will benefit us immensely. It’s more easier said than done we’ve witnessed that before. This isn’t one of those “you need to cut this out your life” blog. It’s more of a “You decide what’s best for your life” blog.

Excited to start our savings goals and plans , we manage to save up a good chunk of cash, then in a blink of an eye it’s just gone. Vanished , some people are able to recall where every cent went. Then there are those who quite aren’t sure where it went at all.

This is the time to really sit with ourselves and take out a pen and paper. Write out all the things you want to accomplish with your finances. Either get a new job, a first job or starting something of your own. I do all of the above and it can be overwhelming. I advise you to only do all of the above if you’re a professional multitasker and work well under heavy pressure.

If you need more time, start with your current line of work, if your currently looking then when you got that market. Stick with one. First things first is wanting a change. The second is sticking to your plan entirely. This is a serious time to do so. As we don’t know what can happen in a year. As COVID has taken its toll on many people and businesses. We want to make sure in the future we and are families are all well taken care of.

To ensure this we must first learn what budgeting is, in short it’s managing what you spend by what income you make. Next it’s making sure that create a reasonable savings plan. Something that can be done with your income. Don’t expect to save $10,000 as a goal in one year. Unless you’re making those achievements to really get there.

Create a plan that works for your lifestyle and pleasures. To budget doesn’t mean you can’t buy the fun things in life, it just means you value being secure financially to buy the things you need and want. Setting a personal saving to the side for anything also helps keep big plans in tact.

Stop, sit, and write your savings goals and plans. Go over your monthly income and expenses. Subtract your expenses from your income. What’s left over is your savings budget. You will split that out into whatever savings goals you have plus, some spending cash for the road. If you have an unbalanced schedule and it varies from time to time. Then go with your closes estimate monthly income.

If keeping money out of your hands is hard , there are many piggy banks, bank accounts that you can’t get into very easily. Out of sight out mind..

Stick to this and I’ll check up with you guys in a month to see how you’re doing. You can check out my financial Facebook page for daily tips as well. Good luck!

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Happy New year, New you!

It’s about that time again , where we make all these powerful and unique goals and some of us either forget as the year goes along, some have a hard time fulfilling it and there are those who succeed. So what’s the difference? How can all these people have the same end goal, yet different end goals ?

It’s simple , motivation, dedication and patience. We want things to get done right then and there. It just doesn’t work like that, things take time, people need time changing old habits into new ones. If you’re so accustomed to living one way, then it’ll be hard to break that. Are you writing down these goals ? Are you keeping them in mind daily ?

If not , then there is no coincidence as to why your plans keeping failing. You have to be dedicated to your goal, that means if you can wake up and go to work even when you hate that job. Then you can take the time to fix what you need for yourself and your growth.

It’s not a easy task, but that’s where people like me come in. Guiding others into the right directions, with inspirational words. Whether you enjoy reading, digital graphic or audio such as podcast. You can find tutorials and tips on almost anything you’d like to work on.

I have quite a few podcast and I find it to be the most useful source in getting a message out. This is by setting the tone you want your audience to feel, the way you interact with them when they call in or leave comments and most importantly how you get the message to be understood by everyone.

It’s time to find the you, you have been soul searching for. Are you ready ? Make sure to follow for more helpful tips. If you’re invested in any of my podcast or my book please leave me a comment below and we can get ring on that.

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Put yourself first !

It’s going into a new year, and as we’ve all experienced it’s been a rough one. From Covid, to losing jobs and struggling to just maintain. It’s been very hard for some. So what does this have to do with putting yourself first ? Everything.

This is the exact time you want to focus on creating your own business, habits and so much more. There is so many options to choose from, working from home can be a very healthy way of working. You can set your own hours , set your time according to your needs.

There won’t be any reporting to HR cause you can’t make it to work cause you or e loved one is sick. There will be no worrying about being late due to traffic or any other reasons that come up. You are your own boss. Use your talents to start a business. It’ll take time , but if you start now. I guarantee in a year you’ll be happy you did.

Most people say, well I don’t know where to start. The first step is analyzing all of your talents, which one can be used by others ? Which one can you begin right now, with little or no income ? Do you paint or draw? Make music, write articles and stories ? Whatever it is, start today. Otherwise you’ll repeat what everyone is trying to avoid, losing their jobs.

You have to start putting yourself first, your health, wealth and time. We can overwhelm ourselves to keep someone else’s business afloat. Yet, we never once invested that time into ours. Most feel they’re not good enough, or that you need loads of cash to start a decent business. Although you will obviously need to spend money to make money.

That’s for another plan, your first focus is creating the idea first, then note what you will need to push it. You will need to know where to network your work, what you will need to bring it about and so much more.

This new year, put yourself first. You owe it to yourself, it’s time to begin a new journey and so much more exciting ways of building your empire. Who said starting your own business had to be hard ? You can have all the money in the world and still create a unsuccessful business. It’s not what you spend, but the dedication, hard work and patience you put in.

Good luck. 💯

Mentor be or not mentor be.

A positive model can be anyone from our personal life to even a celebrity; all it takes is for some inspiring words to pull us through our toughest struggles. To be a proper positive role model you must have three major features such as independence, motivation skills and modesty. Without those characteristics you can lead someone in the wrong path if you are not clear about what you voice to them.

 A positive model must know how to efficiently be independent. It is okay to have help from others occasionally but our true help comes from ourselves within. So in order for you to motivate a person from old bad habits to new ones they must want to change on their own first. When we have a sense of independency we can accurately make better judgments that benefit us rather than what other people may tell us. You must first trust your own advice and thought. When was the last time someone told you to do something and you quickly said no? It is because you knew the precautions of that act, someone who does not trust their own instincts would allow the other person to con them into doing it even if it felt wrong at first.  If we can’t trust our own word then we will always allow someone to guide our every move and that may bring us further in a hole. Someone who is dependent knows that we have to think clearly, open-minded and smartly when it comes to decision making. Any wrong move can guide that path in the wrong direction. Running into a problem we never have dealt with or have a hard time can and will be hard; which is why we need someone who is level headed to give us the right advice. A mentor who is independent will not only help you solve your problem but they will do it in a way that will make you answer your own questions. Giving a sense of hope that you can do it alone all it takes is patience and a clear mind.

Motivation is what keeps us going even if when we know things will not work out the way we want them to. To be a great mentor you must be able to motivate others. It is hard to keep a positive mind when everything seems to be falling into one bucket making it too heavy to carry. As a good motivator you was know how to talk to your audience based on who they are. Some can get motivated very easily and some not so easily. You want to make them feel as if they can handle any issue coming that has not arrived yet. When we motivate someone it allows them to see a problem more of a challenge not to run from it but to run into it and see the big picture. A motivator must never dictate the person they are motivating but talk in a peaceful yet determined tone.

To be independent has to do more with having a sense of self. Determining who you are is a reflection of the advice you give to someone. In order to guide others we must be able to follow our own advice. Most people can’t take advice from their own thinking process. The advice we give to a person must be clear, positive and beneficial to succeed in the goal. There will be stubborn people who won’t want to either take the advice or may feel it’s hard to overcome. So we must explain it in a way each person can understand. Being independent gives you the capability of clearly knowing what the real issue is. Some people don’t know what the problem is until someone shows them. You as the helper should also trust in your own advice. If it would not help you if you were in the same position then you should not expect it to help them. Independence is just more of knowing your advice is accurate, safe and will bring change. Lastly one characteristic of being a great mentor is to be modest. You should always be honest and kind. Some people need aggressive to get the message. Then there are those who need much more peaceful guidance. No one seeks advice from a liar. When we are honest it tells the person that they can trust our word. They know we will not give them false information just to make them happy. But give them information to provide justice. Overall a positive model must have all the characteristics of a honest, independent and modest person. They will accurately put themselves in the person shoes to see what that person needs to hear. Everyone mind set is different. What helps one won’t help another so it’s best to evaluate the person in need of help to help them specifically.  A mentor also will not tell the person what they want to hear. It is more of what they need to hear. These are all the characteristics a mentor needs to have in order to help anyone. To know yourself means you know no one is perfect and we all seek help. You should never judge anyone situations. Your goal is to promote them to a better living life style.

Releasing your fears!

We all have had a point in time where we were afraid to make a big step. Whether it’s a new job, a new home , relationship or just something that we feel we may not be ready for. We all have this form of fear and find ourselves asking these questions.

Is this the right choice for me ? Am I ready for this move ? Do I have the proper skills to move forward , do I trust myself do make the right decisions? Our minds start racing with multiple questions that we don’t have the answer to. This only provokes more fear.

It’s okay to have some form a fear, it means you want to do better. Instead of worrying and asking all of these questions, let’s first focus on we’re moving to a place we wasn’t before. Somewhere new , and that’s a great start. Feel accomplished for moving forward and understand you have made all the right steps to get there now, so you will gain the aspects to continue moving forward.

Releasing your fears not only improves your decision making , but it also helps you make better choices when it comes to picking what’s best for you in the moment or in the future. Releasing your fears helps you feel more comfortable, confident and in charge. You understand that the fear is okay, it’s just a sign that you want to do right.

Never forget that you have made it this far, never forget you made the first initiative to bring about this new journey. We just need to have a little more faith, patience , confidence and gratitude. Without that, fear will only negate your true blessings. Then you will assume you foreseen this coming about.

If you’ve been following a lot of my work for awhile, you’d know I bring up manifestation a lot. You manifested for your plains to foil, you pushed so much of your waking time worrying, you forgot to enhance. You forgot to write down the notes that you needed to upgrade.

If you used that energy to upgrade , you’d find yourself succeeding in a lot more. Trust in yourself, release those fears. Most of the time it’s just because we’re nervous anyway , or something in the past triggered it. Either way , you’re in charge and you should have no fear.

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Through my lens.

Eyesight, It’s one of our major five senses. In my opinion I’d say a very important job it has as well. Those who are capable rely on their sight for literally every second of their lives. Although some are born without this major tool. Yet, they live just like us. They certainly have a different way of maneuvering through life than we do. But they get the job done. It’s called adapting.

Whether they were born without the ability to see, or they encountered a illness or injury that resulted in the loss of sight. They still have managed to stay happy, to stay strong , to keep living, get married have kids, normal lives. Some may see them as maybe vulnerable, or helpless to themselves. They see themselves as normal, they never knew the difference between sight and then no sight.

So although we both are using a form of sight , it’s not coming from the same source. But, same the same results come about. Why?

Simply because our sight is our visions, and no one else’s. What I see, you do not see in the same way. Hence why a famous great painting could be considered hideous to another.

Overall, we should not just rely on physical sight in life and instead use our other senses to guide us safely through life’s challenges. Not all that you see now will remain the same. Whether it’s for the best or worse. There will be a lesson, some pain and growth. That’s life. So what you see isn’t always the answer, it’s what you feel.

Take a closer look from the lens in your eyes.

What kind of stories do you guys want to hear?

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The Mystery box

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Writers Chronicles
By Eyeshana Henderson

Sup, people call me Chad the chaos cause everywhere I go, things seem to go chaotic. The town says I was born with a curse because on the day of my birth, the town went into flames, the town’s only school closed down, the banks went bankrupt and all the crops dried up so food couldn’t be grown. Oh, and the hospital lights went out. This forced the town to move further up north, to the mountains. Life has been different ever since. I was shunned from the town at the age of 14 and forced to live and fend for my own. I settled in a town called floral’s dale, for a name so sweet the place was vastly far from it having to be alone for centuries. I’ve learned how to grow foods throughout all seasons, how to craft my own tools, how to make clothing and shelter. I opted to live in the woods, away from society and from causing chaos. The story goes like this, after I built my shelter, I mostly stayed indoors sipping hot cocoa writing my novels and then reading them aloud by the warm fire, some I even acted out and recorded it.
Sounds odd, but when you live alone in solitude you get bored, so I use my time to educate myself and to keep my brain full of knowledge. I lived comfortably here for over one hundred years. If you saw me, you’d laugh in my face if I told you I was one hundred and fourteen years old, but I am. I never aged physically, but mentally I have grown much wisdom. I know most of my family is gone, but I am certain I have relatives. I hope one day to visit them and tell the tale of my journey. One stormy night there was a knock on the door, this was a shocker to me as I have never had visitors.
I go out to town once a month to gather everything I need from food, medical, entertainment, toiletries, pretty much all the basics need. I got up and asked, hello? There was no answer, so I sat back down. Another knock came in, I got upset this time and said HELLO! And swung the door open. Rain pouring and wind hitting my face. I glance down and see a box at my door step. It was all wooden and had little symbols on them. I picked it up and closed the door. The fire was knocked out by the fierce wind. So, when I re lit my fire and got all warm again, I tried to open this little puzzle box. I may look the age of a young teen, but remember I am one hundred and fourteen years old. There was a button on the back, which I clicked and then everything went black.
I awoke in my old house again, before it all happened, as infant I watched everything through my own eyes as if I was spectating someone else view. The box was on my neck this time as a necklace, made of leather, but the box was still attached to the necklace, just smaller. I touched it and again it went black, this time to when I was fourteen and got shunned, this time it was a watch in the shape of a box. I must’ve been going insane. I grabbed the box again, but nothing happened. I tried again but nothing. This time I was not able to go anywhere but here. I grabbed my back pack, and headed back to where my family last was. If this was my chance to start over, I’m taking it. I had no winter clothing so I traveled in a thin long sleeve, tan pants and some black sneakers. I have my old backpack that’s green that carries some dry foods, bottles of water, small things needed to survive a few nights in the wild until you found somewhere safe.
I came upon the mountains, half way frozen to death, until I saw tents and some fires. It looked like a little town. The temperatures were beyond cold, I mean it felt like Antarctica. How could anyone settle here. I was half alive when I called out hello? I need assistance, a little girl comes running out to my aid. Are you okay? She runs to one of the tents yelling mama! Papa! There is a frozen boy outside. Two figures come running towards me, and then I black out. I wake up in a warm cozy bed, with dim lights and the smell of cinnamon candles. I wake up to a woman over me, are you alright? We found you on the ice, how did you get here in such conditions? I told them the truth and they laughed in my face, and said I must be suffering from hypothermia. I insisted that I was in fact who I say I was. They told me to get some rest and left me there alone. I could still hear them cackling and laughing at me.
I got so angry the candle knocked over, and set the tent on fire as I tried to run to safety, they zipped the tent up and yelled we know who you are. You’re Chad the chaos, you caused all of that harm and now you’re back to harm again. So, you’ve figured out my little plan I snarled. Smart little flesh balls you are, you have seen by my trick, haven’t you? Of course, we have they yelled to me, you come back every one hundred years, and were always ready for you. You play some innocent helpless child and then try to burn the town down. You fool’s I screamed I have the magic box. I frantically searched for it , where is it!? We removed it from your wrist while you were napping. Nooooooo! I’ll be back again! As the flames went up there was a flash and I woke in my old home, in my chair by the fire writing my novels, sipping my hot cocoa waiting for that knock every one hundred years for my revenge, I’ll be back again.I’ll See you soon.