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Are you or they the problem? Signs you’re being manipulated.

Dig deeper into the minds of others and thyself.

Understanding how the mind works will open a lot of doors to realizing how easy it is to manipulate people. If you are one who gets easily offended then this article is for you, and here’s why. A person who manipulates people already knows how to get into their heads, what to say, how to say it and when to say it. It’s a game for them, they genuinely enjoy hurting others to make themselves feel good. Sad but very true.

How to spot a manipulator?

They usually are very good at hiding what they do and very rarely are they caught in action, unless you’re like me and can read body language and tones very easily..if not no worries that’s what I’m here for, below are some signs you’re being manipulated or someone you know is a manipulator.

They have a way of changing your mind after you firmly said no. Ex: (“Why can’t we just buy a new car? You have the money for it stop being so cheap”)
They play the guilt trip card to get what they want. Ex: (Are you sure you don’t want to take extra hours at work? Well it’s your lose you must not want to make any money”)
They ask a question without a question Ex: “I really wish I had some money to buy a soda” in hopes you’ll just offer it to them.
They make you feel bad for disagreeing with something you strongly had a point on. “You really are heartless for not lending me any money, I know I still owe you from before but I’m starving and haven’t eaten in two days..guess I’ll just go to bed hungry again”)
They devalue your intelligence by saying things like “You’re a know it all” “you think you know but you don’t” “you think you’re so smart” “That statement made no sense”
They never take the blame for their wrong doings and call you the monster. Ex: “I don’t care what I did wrong, you did wrong too and worse”)
They don’t care for right or wrong, as long as you unaware of what they are doing..they’ll keep doing it
They have ways of making you question your own sanity and intelligence.
They leave you feeling very confused after any conversation

There are many ways to spot a manipulator but I have named the major signs, most people don’t even know they are being manipulated, it can be a friend, co worker, bosses, authority figures, family members and spouses. If you ever notice any of these signs I mentioned stay far away from them, these are not people who will come to any understanding and when they are called out they most certainly will call you crazy for even thinking that. They like victims they can use and when you call them out they are no longer in control and now feel helpless. So they may storm out or even make the situation more intense by rage of words or physical harm. Understand you are not wrong and have a right to determine what is beneficial for your wellbeing. You do not have to comply with anyone who doesn’t comply with you..in the end are they really complying or have a hidden agenda for a future plot? Be wise and listen to your gut..its never wrong.

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How to control overthinking.

Challenging your mind.

We all can admit, it’s not easy to control your thoughts. It’s like a kid being left alone with a cookie jar that’s open when their parents are not around, after they were told they couldn’t have any before dinner. As we age that lack of self control gets more harder to tame. When we focus on only thinking positive we create a better path for ourselves because we are not allowing doubts and fears to enter our energetic fields..yes we create energies and they are always connected to what we think about and then the universe brings it to life and our existence. It won’t be easy but it won’t be hard, focus on where you want to see yourself in the future wether its days or years ahead. Never allow doubt to stir you from your path..otherwise you’ll never know if you stopped overthinking where would your life be now..

How to focus on what you want and not what you don’t.

Universal Missions

So many people like you and me struggle with trying to think positive every second of the day, especially with life’s ups and downs…oh yeah it can be a real challenge but I’m here to tell you that its not impossible! By focusing on what you want all the time you are pre creating the lavish life you need and want, you’ll start coming up with better and structured ideas, plan them with ease, actually follow your steps and learn that mistakes are only for our growth and never as a punishment. What successful person you know of that has not made one mistake..? Yeah it’s not reality, because we all have to make mistakes in order to make it right. So tale that mistake as a gain and apply it to your next move and ask yourself these questions the second doubt and negatives thoughts appear, what can I learn from this mistake? How can I turn it into something positive? What steps can I change? What can I gain by accepting my mistakes and turning it into a strength? What will benefit my life if I gave up right now? Would it make a difference if I didn’t give up and instead pushed harder? You are the creator of what you think by sending those energies to the universe. Every thought has energies so be mindful of what you send cause it’ll be what you receive. 👁

Wake up with purpose..

Everyday we should wake up with a purpose, even if yesterday was not so great. We ourselves can make every new day better simply by altering our thinking process. Sometimes we drag yesterdays negative energies into today…and then wonder why we have no results. Just as you use a filter to drink safe water..filter your negative thoughts into positive as they are beneficial for your health as well. ♥ Universal Missions